So Sad

Saturday, August 30, 2008
We did not get the house.  I cannot even tell y'all how sad I am. I have spent the morning crying.  This house was perfect for us in every way.  My children despise their school so I was going to move them to the public school here.  This house actually backs up to the backyard of some good friends of ours. It is in the best neighborhood...one that is very hard to get into. This neighborhood is one that is really a small community within a big city .  This house was exactly my style (and I can be just a little picky).  In fact, 11 years ago Dave and I thought about building a house.  I took photos of a house almost exactly like this one and I have carried those photos around for 11 years.  I based the french doors in our VA house on this house.  I literally have carried this house around in my heart and my mind for many, many years.  I was actually amazed when I saw it on the market.  I took it as a sign.  I know everybody says that it just wasn't meant to be but I am having a hard time seeing how or why this would not be meant for us.

We did everything we could but another family outbid us. We had no idea what they were bidding but we have a feeling they knew what we were bidding. Their agent was a colleague of the seller's agent (in the same office).

Anyway, thanks for all the prayers and good wishes. Unfortunately, I have seen everything else on the market and nothing else compares right now. So, not sure what we will do. This was my dream house....


Dream House

69 comments:

  1. I am sorry. It is indeed a beautiful house and I am sorry it is not yours. Something else will surely come up. This is yet another thing that will be difficult in this transition and another thing that will break your heart but you will get past this, I am sure of it. Good luck in your search! Keep your chin up! I will continue to pray that you find something just as perfect!

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  2. So sorry you didn't get the house. It stinks if they knew what you all were bidding! That is just not fair! I hope something else comes along soon and you are able to find a school the boys love! Praying for your family during this difficult time.

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  3. I understand why you love this house and I'm sorry it didn't work out. Trust in God's plan. It's hard when you're in the midst of things, but keep the faith. Blessings!

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  4. Oh I am so sorry. It is beautiful but I am praying that God shows you another home just perfect for you! Transition is so hard for everyone.

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  5. So sorry to hear the sad news. That home looks perfect for you and your family and it's awful when you have your heart set on something that seemed so good for your family. Hoping you'll find another that is equally as great!
    We are also experiencing anxiety over here. My husband is changing companies, hoping we don't have to relocate, but waiting to hear back about the one he really wants locally- sometime today. Very nerve racking, but all I can say is if it's meant to be he'll get it, it's the only way to get through it really, we've done everything else.
    Hang in there through all of these changes, things will start falling into place soon.

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  6. I am so sorry...you will find another one..
    My thoughts and prayers are with you..
    Hope you can have a Great Weekend..
    Hugs girly..

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  7. I can see why you loved this house. I am so sorry it didn't work and it is very unfair sometimes how these things go. Good luck and I will be praying for you.

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  8. I'm so sorry you didn't get the house :( and the school aspect makes it doubly hard. Persevere. Maybe your friends can put out the word that your lovely family wants to move into the neighborhood. Please keep us all posted. You're in my prayers.

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  9. Oh, and a piece of advice I wish I'd taken. If the schools are fabulous and you can't buy, rent in that district til a house you love becomes available. Good luck!

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  10. It is a beautiful house but there is one out there better for you, this kind of thinking is so hard in the midst of things, I know, but God sees the big picture and He's looking out for you. May He fill your heart with quiet assurance as you continue to look for the perfect home for all of you.
    I love the Lord because He hears my prayers and answers them.
    Psalm 116:1

    Blessings,
    Robin

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  11. Well, dadgummit. I wish I knew where this house was so I could go knock on the door and tell the owners that if they really cared about their house, they would sell it to your nice family!

    I wouldn't give up hope yet. Sometimes contracts fall through.

    I am so sorry that the school situation is still bad. Is it possible to rent a house in this community so that you could move your children to the schools? That would also buy you some more time for those owners to come to their senses and sell that house to you or for you to find something even better.

    My heart really breaks for you. I hope that there is some good news headed your way REAL soon. You certainly need and deserve it.

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  12. It's beautiful. I'm sorry to hear you did not get it.

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  13. So sorry you didn't get the house....it is beautiful, but I am sure you will find one even more beautiful that is meant for you family!

    Hang in there and don't give up those dreams....they will come true!

    Lisa

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  14. Oh, Kim... I'm so sorry. The house is very lovely- I wish I knew what to say to cheer you up. I will be praying that you find an even more perfect home for your beautiful family (if anyone can- you can). Maybe you will get really lucky, and the other deal will fall out of escrow. Make sure to keep your backup offer in there.

    And I'm so sad to read how sad you & the kids are right now. Change is so hard- I know.

    Sending big hugs to you & the kids. Call me if you want to talk (I could use the distraction from my contractions & I miss you)!

    HUGS,
    Shana :)

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  15. I am so sorry - but that means there is a better, more perfect house just waiting for ya'll. Please - try and see something positive in this. The perfect house is waiting for you - I know it is. Just keep looking - I bet you'll be posting new picture before you know it :D Still and always in our prayers.
    Ladybug hugs,
    ;D

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  16. I am so sorry Kim! Bless your heart...I and "feel" your sadness in this post...and wish there was something I could say or do to make it all better!
    I'll be praying that the school situation gets much better, that you'll find the perfect home for your precious family, and that all things are bight and beautiful again in your life!
    Sending you hugs from TN!
    Love,
    Denise

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  17. It is a beauty. Maybe it will still fall through. Those things happen all the time. I hope you still find your dream house.

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  18. I am so sorry...I know how much you want to move on. I am praying for God to show you the right house~

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  19. Words can't express how sorry I am you didn't get this home. It is very beautiful. If the other family did know what your family was bidding, those Realtors should be ashamed of themselves!!!

    A very good friend of mine had the same experience several years ago when someone outbid her on a home she truly knew in her heart was hers. She was so sad. Her Realtor decided to keep a silent eye on the home, without her knowledge. (I was involved in residential and commercial property management for 18 years for private and corporate real estate investors and they always stressed to me that in real estate anything can happen until the final documents are signed and the keys are handed over). I got off track but just a little over 3 weeks after she was told the house was not hers, her Realtor received a call. The family that had outbid her family could not qualify for the home and the home was hers if she wanted it.

    I truly do not wish to give you any false hopes, but I've seen several real estate transactions not go through for various reasons, especially when several bids are received and families/companies start outbidding each other and bid more for a property than they can actually afford. This may or may not happen to you, but in this market I truly believe you never know.

    Take care, and praying you find your perfect home soon.

    Linda
    Bruce's Mom

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  20. Kim and family,
    I know I haven't been in your "home" these past few days during the bidding war. I know you feel defeated right now. But if you really, really want this house..... keep praying. We all know "if it is God's will." Well God wants to hear from us. He wants to know what is in our heart. Keep telling Him. He loves you, Dave, Will, Harry and Kate. Your prayer will be answered in the way He has planned -- what that plan is we just don't know. But God is in control and He has a way of surprising us (I just love that about Him.) Please don't think I'm encouraging you to stop looking, I'm simply saying that it's usually weeks between sale's agreement and settlement and if something would happen to fall through on that other agreement than that would be okay too. Right?! (insert smiley face here.)
    Blessings,

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  21. Kim i am so sorry- i know what this could have done for your spirits and would have given you some thing to put your energy into. Real estate is so horrible. I was a realtor for 4 years and while i was very succesful while still being honest most were so dishonest and would do anything for a buck- that is why i got out of the business. I will say that I NEVER had a deal go bad where my clients weren;t better off(for whatever reason) in the long run. I know that doesn't help right now but just wanted to share and let you know i REALLY, TRULY empathize! Hope it is all revealed to you SOON!

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  22. I'm dying to know your new city :) I hope this city you don't love isn't a city I do :) Does that make sense? Sorry you didn't get the house. Something will come along. Email me when you have a chance.

    Jennifer and Landree

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  23. I'm so sorry about the house :( I hope you find one that's even more perfect for you and your family soon!

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  24. We have had lots of big ups and downs lately and I try to look for the lesson in each event! I know that what happens will always be for the best! You will find the perfect house...I am certain of it!
    Love and Hugs,
    Michelle

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  25. Kim,

    It sure is a beautiful house. I am so sorry. I broke my promise to my husband for a blog free weekend specifically to check out your situation. You have been in my thoughts all day! I am just so sorry.

    Kate

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  26. That house is gorgeous -- I gasped when I saw it. It must simply mean that your family deserves something even MORE amazing if everything is happening for a reason. Keep your heart and eyes open wide!

    (PS -- I've read your blog for awhile now but have yet to post. I really wanted to leave the above comment to you though.)

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  27. That house is beautiful. GOD knows the desires of YOUR heart. I am still praying for your kitchen. Terri(daisybox)

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  28. Kim,

    It's me again. Having recently gone through the ups and downs of the real estate market, I do know that sometimes things fall through...so while it is a long shot....it's not a done deal until that ink is dry on the closing. I am just going to keep praying that it works out for you somehow.

    Kate

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  29. I am so sorry.

    Snick, Sunshine and Brill

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  30. Kim,
    I am so sorry you didn't get the house - its beautiful. I hope you will find another one soon that is even better.

    I am also so sorry to hear that the boys are not liking their school. I know how hard that can be on you.

    Thinking of you!
    Rachel

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  31. Oh man -- I am so sorry that you did not get the house! What a bummer (does anyone but me say that anymore?). Anyway, I hope something else lovely turns up for you all. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

    Janet

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  32. I, too, am so sorry to hear this. Life is so disappointing sometimes. Maybe it's a sign that you should build this house instead!

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  33. I'm sorry. It certainly is a pretty home! You can have mine, it has 2 sets of french doors in the front. Just somebody please get me out of this neighborhood!

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  34. That house pales in comparison to the beauty of your family and your heart. It's wood and nails and glass and it is not the dream. The dream still lies within your heart and you will take it with you wherever you go. I'm sad that you are so disappointed and I pray that the right things (schools, neighborhood, community,home, etc.) will soon come your way. In the meantime,try to enjoy the moments, even if certain details are not at all what you expected. It will all work itself out, it just might take a little more time. Hang in!

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  35. It is lovely..... but I am so excited to see the home Jesus leads you to my friend.... His ways are not our ways but they are so far and above what we could ever hope for ourselves in the long run.
    Stay the coarse..... good things are coming your way.
    Love You,
    Daleea

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  36. Oh man, I am so sorry - that really stinks :(

    I will keep you in my prayers that you will feel encouraged during this challenging time.

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  37. oops! this turned into more of an email to you- no posting neccessary- just know i feel for you and for the boys. hope you've been able to do some exploring and have some fun this long weekend. hugs and hugs!

    Oh, dear!
    I'm sorry that your move has taken you to such a closed market. It's exclusive (in the most negative and literal definition of the word). It isn't fair. It's downright unethical.
    Our family member is an agent in the same type of "secret listings" and "sealed bids" and "one more chance only" market (Larchmont, NY). Hubby is in the business here in Atlanta.
    The sellers there are sheep and don't understand that if their agents were ethical, they would list and sell for higher prices. The fact that there is a bidding war means that the list price is too low. Duh!
    My only advice is to find the most active agent in that neighborhood, and follow their little game. I'm so sorry, but jumping in the cage with the lions could be the only way other than happening upon a private *by owner* sale.
    It is awful. I'm sorry that you are having to go through it.
    And so sad for the boys. They seem to have always loved school. Could homeschooling until you find your house be an option?
    Hope at least your weather has broken and is cooler, and that you all have had some fun during the holiday weekend.

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  38. Oh Kim, I'm so sorry. It is beautiful. Maybe, just maybe, there's a home out there that's even more perfect for you.

    Gin

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  39. Dear Kim,

    I am sad to hear that you were outbid on the house....been there. God has closed the door on this one but he will open the window to another; hopefully, soon. I will put you on my prayer list to St. Jude (he is the patron saint of things despaired of...sounds like you need it!). He has never been known to fail...something good will happen. As for your boys and school...ugh! Been there also. Even if a school move can't happen right away, they will be ok....they have the best support system ever...YOU!
    Sheila

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  40. I am not going to tell you that it wasn't meant to be because I know you are hurting and there is nothing I can say to make it better. I just want to tell you that I am sorry. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers {{{[hug}}}} I have thought about you a lot lately. My heart hurts for you and I know you are going through such a tough time. {{hug}}

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  41. Oh Kim, I'm so sorry about the house! And your school situation, I think renting in a good district is a possibility.
    I'll be praying for you!
    Hugs,
    Chesnye

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  42. I am sorry. God does have the perfect home for you and your family. Keep trusting Him. Hey, maybe He wants you to build that house..haha!

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  43. I can see why you loved it...sounds just wonderful! Remember, things can change. It's an accepted offer but not settlement.

    So sorry the boys don't like school. You are smart to keep your options open.

    Glad you have good friends close by and blog friends at your finger tips! Keep you chin up!

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  44. It is a very beautiful house. I do think it would fit your style perectly. Hard to accept, I am sure. Here's hoping you find a better one. I would be very disappointed to have to go back to the drawing board! It is funny how it goes... when the right house comes along, you just know it!

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  45. i'm so sorry for you...I HOPE you will fine THE one ! i'm sure you will...

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  46. Oh my, I'm so sorry you didn't get the house! It is lovely and I see why you wanted it. I know how you feel...last year we found a home we loved. I was attached right away and it felt so meant to be. When it didn't work out, I cried for days! In the end, we found a better home for us & I'm so glad we're here instead. The right home is out there for you (and who knows, maybe their financing or some other conditions will fall through) Since the market is up, I'm praying someone in that nice neighborhood is getting ready to sell soon!!

    And I am bummed for Will and Harry. Good thing they realized they don't like it right away so you could switch them when it's still the start of the year!

    Hang in there!!!

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  47. I can see why your disappointment is so overwhelming. Hang in there friend. the best one will come.

    Lea
    xo

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  48. Kim -

    I am so sorry. I love the house and can feel your heartbreak. I won't say it wasn't meant to be, but I will tell you that I will continue to pray for you...Dave...the boys...and Miss Kate. My mother and Em were sitting here this morning and I was telling them about how the move has been going, Em's little heart was breaking for you - I wish you could have heard that exchange, it would have lifted your spirits for sure.

    You are in our hearts right now, Kim. Thank you for keeping us updated, as difficult as it must be to write these posts, they will help you reflect back when life begins to feel normal again.

    (((Hugs))),
    Heather

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  49. Kim,
    If the house is not going to be yours..Don't think about it....Start looking for a new one¡¡¡¡

    I Know is hard, and I can feel your sadness in your post.. but life is sometimes unjust.

    I pray for you, for your two boys, It's very important for them having friends, being comfort in the new school....

    Oh, Kim...I would like to be able to write in English what I feel in Spanish....I will pray and pray for you.

    A very big kiss from Belén.

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  50. Kim, the house is lovely. I can see why you are so upset. One day you will do a post telling us all how you now understand why you didn't get that house! I know it's still hard though.

    ~Lynn

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  51. ah, Kim, I am sorry you didn't get the house. But, I am a firm believer that when one door closes another opens...so I believe the best house is still out there for you to find! Keep your chin up...it will get better.
    Norah

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  52. I am so sorry to hear that you didn't get your house. I can empathize with you. When we moved here from Atlanta we found the perfect home and my husbandand and I both fell in love with it. But it was not to be. I love my home, but often think of that perfect one that got away. I hope that one you love even more comes along and ou are happy that yo didn't get this one.

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  53. So sorry to hear you did not get the house, it is beautiful. I hope you all find the perfect home for your family soon. Take care.

    Karen

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  54. Oh Kim, I'm so sorry. I can see why you are so sad.... it looks like a perfect house. (looks like something you would see in a movie) But remember it is just that.... a house. You will make any house a home with your family and all the love and new memories you fill in it.
    With the boys school I know you as their Mom know what is best for them, but you may want to give it a little more time. When we were stationed in England and our boys had to go to a British school they were miserable at first. Schooling is very different there. I felt so bad for them and was tempted to pull them out and home school. I decided to give it a chance and they ended up although not loving the school, adjusting just fine and I feel it was an overall great experience for them.
    Take one day at a time! Moves are never easy (I should know) and they can really get you down if you let them. Keep reminding yourself of all the blessings that you have!!:)

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  55. I'm so sorry. I know you are so dissapointed. Hang in there, things will get better. (go get some milk duds!!)

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  56. It is a gorgeous house and I know how hard it is. We have moved so many times and have gone through 'bidding wars' while trying to buy a house. It is a very stressful time but I am sure something will come up, keep the Faith! Be strong especially for the kids because it is as hard for them if not harder as it is for you. Goodluck!
    Anne

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  57. It is a beautiful house, but remember a good house doesn't make a good home. Good luck! Another one will come along.

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  58. I've cried over not getting several homes in my lifetime, so I can certainly feel your pain. I'm sure you know that you will find that everything happens for a reason and the 'real perfect' house is still out there.

    Best of luck! Thank you for the visit~

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  59. I am so sorryy. I know what it is like to want a house and not get it.I will pray you find and even better house!!!

    Debbie

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  60. I can see why you fell in love with that house Kim....it is beautiful! I remember getting into a bidding war over a house and we lost it too.....I remember crying over the loss and thinking how I must be crazy to cry over a house that we did not even live in. Our realtor said that is quite common as people start to get emotionally attached when they actually see themselves in the house as a family....he assured me that there would even be something more perfect....and he was right! :) Hang in there.....there will be another one around the corner....and maybe even more perfect! :)

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  61. I am so sorry that you didn't get the house. Something will work out! There is always a way, and I am just like you. I get my heart set on something, and I am totally heart broken if it doesn't work out! Thinking of you...

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  62. CRAP! Can I say that? I even want that house! I am not being much help...SORRY :(

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  63. Ahhh. Gorgeous house. I so can see you sitting on the porch in a rocker with a glass of wine watching the kiddos. Don't worry...you'll find your dream house.
    I hope you all "weathered" the storm okay!

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  64. So sorry! Indeed a beautiful house. You will find your dream house soon. Take care. be safe....

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  65. Saying prayers for you and your entire family. I can't imagine how tough this must be on all of you. Keeping you in my thoughts!

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  66. Oh so sorry!!! I had those same feelings when we thought we might not get the house we are in now. I am praying things will work out just the way they should- there is the perfect house out there- and maybe now that you didn't get this house, your house will go on the market and you will get it. I also know all that is talk and waiting for it to happen is the hard part. Hang in there= God has amazing things planned for your family!!! Take care!!! Shay

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  67. So sorry! The home is absolutely gorgeous and I'm hoping there's one out just as gorgeous! I know there is and it's waiting for you and your family. I have faith. I know when you find a home, things are going to be fabulous!

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Thank you for your kindness.