Chinese philosopher (604 BC - 531 BC)
I begin with this quote because I believe it is the only way we could have come as far as we have with our eating. I could not have started out thinking that I would never eat pizza or ice cream again. And the boys could only handle one meal at a time, one day at a time. I could go out to eat and say to myself, at this meal, "I will not have the yummy bread or dessert."
Having said that, when we first eliminated dairy, wheat, soy and gluten from our diets, it was complete. We did not eat ANY (that we knew of) for about one solid year. We did not eat out much and we did not "cheat." I think that was necessary for two reasons. One was to see if the food we were eating was really making us feel bad (it was). Also, we really needed to change the way our bodies craved and processed food. We also had to kind of clean up our bodies. Now, we can have a occasional piece of pizza (last night). We do suffer consequences. Will gets a stuffy nose and the grumpies, Harry has digestive problems and I get nerve inflammation. But we don't crave those foods much anymore and we know what we will deal with after.
What we don't eat (most of the time):
wheat products
cow's milk
soy
gluten
dairy
So we don't eat breads, cakes, cookies, pancakes, pasta, pop-tarts, pretzels, ice cream etc. unless they are gluten -free. We do have these foods on occasion (vacations, birthdays).
What we do eat:
fruit
vegetables
fish
meat
potatoes
rice milk
goat cheese
eggs
beans
goat milk (Kate)
Millet and Flax bread
Meals for us are usually some sort of protein (meat, chicken or fish) a veggie and salad or rice/potato/bean. Snacks are often fruit. However, I have found over the years some very good gluten free snacks. I have listed them below. They can be found at Whole Foods or other health food stores.
Some of the best gluten free food I have found:
Whole Foods Organic Potato chips
Envirokidz also makes great cereal/snack bars
Nana's cookies--These are good for anyone as they have no hydrogenated fats, no refined sugars.
Glutino pretzels and crackers
In stead of syrup we use Organic Agave Nectar. Let me tell you a little about agave nectar. It is really a fabulous low glycemic all natural sweetener. I used to put two teaspoons of sugar in my coffee. Now I use this and I do not even taste the difference.
Bell and Evans GF chicken tenders--these are so good and they are perfect for when I need a quick dinner before Judo or if they kids are having a baby sitter. The chicken in antibiotic, hormone free white meat. They also have a regular variety. I highly recommend these for a healthy, quick option for kids.
We also buy all of our lunch meat (turkey, ham etc) at Whole Foods. Yes, it is expensive but it is gluten free and minimally processed and preservative free.
We LOVE bacon (I know it is BAD) so we also buy the nitrate free, organic, low salt, minimally processed bacon from Whole Foods for our occasional fix. It is SO good!
Applegate Farms makes a really good all beef, no nitrate, gluten free, organic hot dog that is delicious.
A few notes:
~Yes, eating this way is VERY expensive. It was a shock to our bank account when we started shopping at Whole Foods and other places like that. But, it is what we put in our body and it is what makes us function in a healthy manner. So, we do it. I feel very fortunate that we can afford to eat this way. I am incredibly thankful for that.
~ It takes a long time to see the changes and it takes a lot of discipline and commitment. Supplements helped us see results a little quicker. But think about how long we ate the other way. It takes our bodies a long time to adjust. It is definitely worth it though.
~I used to LOVE junk food. In college, I ate a Philly cheese steak every single day (with a soft pretzel that I dipped in processed meted cheese). So, if I can do this anyone can.
~Now I could not nor would I want to eat that way. Once your body gets used to good and healthy food, it cannot tolerate junk. I won't get too graphic here but a McDonalds burger would not even stay in my system for a half hour if I ate one. I could not eat a bowl of regular pasta without feeling dizzy and nauseous and I would get a headache. I used to LOVE pasta. I still like it and I make GF lasagna and other pastas.
~ The year I changed our eating my cholesterol went down 30 points! It was 184 and it is now 154. The good cholesterol stayed exactly the same but the bad cholesterol went down tremendously! I never expected that since it wasn't bad to begin with and I still eat red meat. My triglycerides went down 4o points from 89 to 49. Again, they were not bad before but they are great now.
~Allergy testing is very tricky. Will and Harry have had their blood sent off for the most comprehensive allergy testing available (at the Mayo clinic). The tests came back saying that neither of them were allergic to anything! Well, we know that Will has an anaphylactic allergy to peanuts and he has a severe allergy to dogs. Harry has had a stomach biopsy to confirm his milk and soy allergy as a baby. My point is that allergy testing is not very reliable in kids. So, I will never know if they have a "true allergy" to all of this stuff. But I do know these symptoms have virtually disappeared from us since we changed the way we eat:
constipation, diarrhea, anger rages, learning disability, ADD type behavior, eczema, asthma, constant stuffy nose, MS symptoms, megacolon and many more. These foods affected us all completely differently but eliminating them made us all better.
I really hope that all of this information can help one person out there who is wondering if food sensitivities are hurting them or their child. As I said, I am not an expert and I am not trying to change anyone's mind. I am just willing to share what our story is. I know that for years, every teacher we had thought one of my kids might have ADD (we had him tested) when he changed the way he ate (and took a GREAT supplement that I will post about next) he changed. No one EVER thinks that about him now. In fact, the year we changed our diet his teacher said, "In the beginning of the year, I did not know what I was going to do with him. I kept moving his seat next to the calm kids. By the end of the year, he was the calm kid that I moved other kids next to!"
I am happy to answer anyone's questions about all of this. If you ask a question, I'll respond in the comments. Next, I talk about supplements!
Thank you for the interesting health series! I know you had a cute dog names Scout. With Will's allergies can he tolerate the dog? I am have an allergy to dogs too. Thank you, Cindy
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ReplyDeleteScout is hypoallergenic! She is a schnoodle (poodle Schnauzer mix) and Will has no problems with her at all:) We had to be very careful and we made sure he was around a schnoodle before we got her. There are a handful of dogs (poodles, portugese waterdogs, etc that do not cause allergies. Scout also does not shed...not one hair!
Kim,
ReplyDeleteThis is very interesting. I love how you incorporated the psychology aspect of it at the beginning. When I think about living w/o some of the things you mentioned, it seems monumental. I will be passing this on to friends who have been struggling with similar issues and look for ways to "clean up" my own life as I'm able.
All the best!
Love,
Lisa
Hi Kim,
ReplyDeleteHow about nuts? What about jelly/jam? Do you make your own or is there a brand you highly reccomend? We are currently doing the Peanut Butter and Jelly dance at our house. For Aaron, there isn't much else or he'll just PASS on that meal, thank you very much. And he's SO skinny already, we're a little worried about getting him to eat enough. Do any of you have a hard time keeping your weight up? I'm looking forward to hearing about your supplements... Are the boys pretty good about their eating when they are elsewhere (friend's, school, etc.)? Is it hard for them at parties etc? OH! And one last question, Can you do a gluten-free pie crust? ; ) Just SOME of my numerous questions...! Thanks SO much for all your great info!
Monkey's Mom,
ReplyDeleteThey are allergic (deathly) to nuts...so no Peanut butter in our house. Harry can have almond butter. We do jelly sandwiches once in a while but not too often because they are high in sugar. The boys are really thin but I don't worry too much because they eat a lot and they eat a variety of good things. Dave and I are small too so they were skinny before the diet. In fact, Harry gained weight and shot up when we took him off gluten.
Yes, they boys are good about eating this way elsewhere. Most people have fruit around their house. Sometimes I will pack a lunch to go to friends houses. In the beginning I bought GF treats to parties (Gluten free pantry has lots of options for baking). Now they know they cannot have that stuff. Once in a while we let them have the cake but they hardly ever finish it.
We have not done a GF pie crust yet but we do make GF "crisps" apple crisp, blueberry etc.
Kim
Great info. Your family eats natural and what the body needs, not all the processed crap. I bet it's sometimes hard with all the temptations out there but like you said, with the way your body now reacts, it's not worth it, I'M SURE!
ReplyDeleteI love Van's and I LOVE Bell & Evans. So many chicken products out there are SO gross and with rib meat connected and formed together with who knows what else, ewww. I love their coconut chicken tenders even though I'm well over the age of 7!!! And, I think AG Farms is the best. Whole muscle meats and not parts and pieces! I love WF, they are very helpful there.
I'm so glad you found something that works for you and your family and yes, it's more expensive but you and your family deserve to be healthy and happy. I think that is worth A LOT and something you really can't put a price on.
Oh one more thing Monkey's Mom,
ReplyDeleteI make one thing for dinner for everyone and if they don't like it...there is always breakfast the next morning:0) No one starves.
Hi,
ReplyDeleteI read often but rarely comment.....! my youngest daughter is on exactly the same diet even down to the neocate! and she cannot eat fish also as it makes her violently sick! It was not untill we got really strict with her diet that we noticed the HUGE behavioural changes - she is still no Angel but she has much more control over her actions now! if we slip which unfortunatly happens occasionally, boy do we know about it. She copes well when we are out and about and at 3 years old pretty much knows what she can and cant eat! if she does not like the look of something offered when we are out she ays " sorry I can't eat that it has milk and wheat in it and it will make me sick" clever little monkey!
Oh, do you use any of Amy's foods? I know they are on the processed level but I do love her things and how well things are marked. I swear, I would die without her cheese enchilada w/ corn and black beans... I think there is a roasted veggie pizza that is good (not a traditional type) and no dairy, soy or gluten.
ReplyDeleteYou know what, you should post some of your favorite recipes. I would be interested. :)
TPP,
ReplyDeleteWe use a few Amy's brand food but my kids don't love it. It is healthy and organic but does have gluten in some of it too.
Thank you, Kimber, for opening my eyes to a new way of eating. I will study your post, and I think I will make a trip to whole foods!
ReplyDeleteWhen my daughter was small we noticed she was very hyperactive if she ate chocolate. We eliminated chocolate from her diet, and I made carob chip cookies for the entire family for many years. She did not, and does not, have a learning disability. I was under the understanding that learning disabilities do not go away. A person can compensate for them, but it is a disability they have to deal with their entire lives. Perhaps it was not a learning disability your child had at all, but merely the result of a food allergy. I hate to see when people write off learning disabilities so quickly, when many people spend their entire lives trying to deal with them.
ReplyDeleteKim,
ReplyDeleteThanks for taking the time to do this. I learn so much from you. You are just enough ahead of me in your journey as a wife and mom that you're a great mentor for me to follow. (I'm currently reading Smart Discipline and love it! Thanks for that, too!)
I was curious about what you said about feeding the kids...they eat what you eat and if they don't like it there's breakfast in the morning. I'm trying to change to that philosophy and was wondering--do the kids eventually start liking what you eat after they are continually exposed to it and expected to eat it? Does it get easier?
Thanks again for your beautiful blog. It's "my favorite". (To quote my 2 year old. :))
Kathy
Thanks for sharing your knowledge! I know you said you don't eat at McDonald's, but what do you eat if you are out all day or on vacation? Are there any fast food restuarants that you eat at?
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I am sooo ready to hear about the supplements for the ADD.. My oldest has always had a hard time with ADD.. and he stopped taking med. his Freshman year.. but has really struggled.. I have heard of an all natural but wanted to get more info before I ask him if he will try it..
ReplyDeleteCan't wait..
HUGS.
Thanks for all the info..
I vote for some of your favorite recipes as well! Do you frequent any particular cookbooks?
ReplyDeleteThx-Jennifer
And with the crisps, do you use rolled oats? I would be interested in THAT recipe especially!
Thank you so much for posting your information. We also love shopping at Whole Foods, and fondly refer to it as "Whole Paycheck".
ReplyDeleteI can't wait to read about the supplements you are taking. I was taking supplements provided to me by a natural healing center I go to, but we started taking liquid vitamins when Bruce came home. I was feeling great before, but feel so much better now that I'm taking these. We also think they're why Bruce is so healthy. Judy Wu who was our coordinator in China came to the U.S. a couple of months ago and we saw her and she asked us what miracle pills we were giving Bruce because of how healthy he looked to her as opposed to how he looked I guess when she first met him.
Thank you again.
Linda
Kim, You are amazing, all you have been though! I so admire your disapline and perseverance!! You are such an example to follow!
ReplyDeleteDear Anonymous,
ReplyDeleteMy son had a true learning disability ( a 30 point difference between his knowledge IQ and his performance IQ). That is a BIG disability according to the educational psychologists. He still struggles a little with handwriting but that is about it. He is mostly an A student. I am not saying this works for everyone but it worked for us.
I take learning disabilities very seriously because they really caused a lot of pain in our family for a while.
Also, thank you for sharing about chocolate. Kate cannot eat it or she behaves very badly. She LOVES chocolate but very time she has had it she has a MAJOR tantrum.I will try carob.
So glad I found your blog. As someone who tested + for gluten allergies (at age 37) it is so refreshing to see others and how they live. BTW, whole foods does have gluten free cookies and breads. Some do contain dairy and soy though. Have you tried glutenfree.com?
ReplyDeleteKathy,
ReplyDeleteTo answer your question...I used to make Will "kid food" for dinner when I was a new Mom--grilled cheese, macaroni and cheese, chicken tenders for about a year. Then, I decided to cook us all real meals and serve them to everyone. So, Harry and Kate have only known grown up food. Yes, it is a hard adjustment but they eat their dinner every night. Will loves chili and Harry does not. So, I give him extra rice in the bottom of the bowl and less chili...but he gets chili. The only thing my kids don't like is salmon so I don't make it. There are a couple of meals they don't love but they eat them.
We have a rule that they can not complain about the food because it hurts the person who spent the time cooking it. If they really don't like it, they can not eat it but they don't get something else. They have never flat out skipped a meal. We often hear,"thanks for the delicious dinner Dad/Mom."
Amy B,
ReplyDeleteGood question!
We usually pack lunches and snacks for long car trips. In some ways, I miss the drive-thru days:)
If we must stop somewhere, we usually go to Chic-fil-a. We can eat french fries (although NOT Mcdonalds because they put gluten on them) and we can get sandwiches or burgers without the bun.
We eat out regularly and we have learned where and what to eat. My kids love tilapia and they will get that with vegetables or meat or chicken. We tell the servers about he gluten allergy a lot and they accommodate us. Just tonight we went to Red Robin and they made their food separate (burgers with no buns). Mexican food is usually okay (we get corn tortillas and they can have cheese occasionally). Chinese food is good--as long as they don't use peanuts and no MSG.
We felt very limited at first but now many places have options. Also, Maggiano's offers gluten free pasta!
Thanks so much for posting all this. I was diagnosed with Celiacs last year and it amazing how that evil little gluten can make you feel. I had 3 anafalatic reaction in the span of 2 weeks and all my allergy test came back negative as well. I look forward to hearing about the supplements. I am also glad to see you have my favorite GLUTINO crackers listed...YUMMO!!!
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capeladybug at yahoo
I'm very interested in learninng more about this. Excuse my ignorance for what foods contain wheat/gluten exaclty. But can you please address what you do for salad dressings, mayo/mustard, butter/margarine, vegetable/olive oils, and any of those kinds of 'extras' nobody thinks about.
ReplyDeleteAlso, you've mentioned specific health benefits for you and the kids, but what about your husband. How did he like the change and what kind of physical changes did he notice, if any.
(Also, I'm reading the Smart Discipline and as a teacher I also purchased a book just for educators that was published this year. Thanks you are a wealth of information!)
amy
Thanks so much for sharing so honestly! My sweet hubby has some health problems. His skin is a big one. We are seriously considering giving up milk. His blood preasure is way high and he refuses to take the pills. We are about to rehab our life and I'll keep you posted on our progress!
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Illinois
Amy (amazeing teacher)
ReplyDeleteGood question....
We read labels and books that suggest certain dressings/condiments that are gluten free. There is a type of dressing Harry likes that we get at Whole foods but we are out of it...so I cannot tell you the name. We use organic butter and the holistic doc says that is fine. I see no effects of that. We make our own taco seasoning because we have yet to find a gluten free one and my kids love tacos. We have to buy special shells because they mass marketed ones have gluten even though they are corn shells! Gluten is in SO many things.
Modified food starch usually means gluten.
We use olive oil and the holistic doc really recommends extra virgin coconut oil. It has tremendous health benefits and we used it for a long time and then we forgot about it. need to get some more.
Mu husband has gone along with the changes but he will not get tested because there is a particular beverage he does not want to give up.
I think he feels better too. As Harry;s gastroenertologist says...really gluten isn't good for anyone!
Kim,
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for sharing this information. We buy a lot of of our food at Trader Joes/Whole Foods, but we could certainly eat better. I saw an alternative doctor years ago and was told not to eat wheat/dairy. I did really well for years, however, have gotten lazy...and I believe I'm paying for it. Thanks again for sharing your family's experience and the reminder of why healthy eating is important.
Karen
Kim...these posts are awesome....I may have to try and print them out! lol What was it you told me recently to take for the inflammation? You said it was from Whole Foods. Can I order online?
ReplyDeleteKim you are amazing! My head is spinning with all of this information. I don't know how you do it all! This has been so enlightening, I will definately be making some changes. I saw a magazine (of course) the other night at B & N about gluten free living, I wondered if you had it. I don't remember the name. Thanks for the quilt square by the way! It is gorgeous! Saw that you called, I have been on the go all week long, miss our chats! I will call soon!
ReplyDeleteThanks for following up with this second post! I was curious to read more after your first post. We love the Envirokidz cereal and snack bars too. I looked hard this year to find "kid snacks" without high fructose corn syrup, artificial colors, etc. And I can't wait to hear about the supplement for your son. I recently ordered a DHA supplement for my son from Dr. Sears that I like a lot. And I am always looking for new ideas/suggestions.
ReplyDeleteThanks again!
Rebecca
Kimber--you are awesome and I love you to pieces for taking the time to post this!!!
ReplyDeleteI REALLY needed this!!! Several years ago I was told I had lupus and scleroderma antibodies. I went to a nutritionist and she told me to eat like this but I never stuck to it.
Now my six year old son has asthma, eczema, and he keeps telling me he is getting headaches.--He is just the sweetest little boy, but I always feel like he doesn't feel well.--
I am committing to do this for him. He doesn't really like sweets and he loves salmon --I really think he can do this-- I wrote down all of your tips and I am going to Whole Foods tommorrow :) Thank you, Thank you Thank you!!!!!! :)
Kim,
ReplyDeleteI have followed your blog for quite a while, but never replied...sorry! We have an adopted daughter as well as two bio twin girls, and live in your former resident city. I have been having gastro issues for a while, and was contemplating using a holistic specialist after my last round of gastro tests coming up. I was wondering if you would share who you saw, or recommended someone.
Thanks, Mignon
Hi, my name is Aubrey White and Jessica Alcorn refered me to your site. My son is almost one year and finally after months and months of me telling the doctor that something just didn't seem right and him constantly (For 6 months, no joke we went to the doctor once, sometimes twice a week to the doctor) for what they said was "croup, pneumia, a cold" FINALLY we switched doctors and she diagnosed him with a dairy (milk protien) allergy, severe excema and asthma. since then we have elimated one food after another. We just had the blood test done 2 days ago because even though his asthma is under control he still has horrible excema.
ReplyDeleteSorry, didn't mean to write a long book but I am excited about your last post about food you eat. I am so lost and just over-whelmed with everything. He is on rice milk now and now we are just waiting to hear back about the blood tests. But now I am a bit worried that it will come back fine even though he has worse symptoms when he was on the milk-based formula.
Thank you!!!
First..... Scout is a Schnoodle.... that is just too cute! what a fun word... I have never heard of that and how wonderful that she is hypoallergenic... that is just amazing.
ReplyDeleteNow..... I just don't know what to say... Thank you.... I feel like there is stuff going on in mine and my families bodies that I don't even understand.... perhaps I have been sticking my head in the sand about the effects all the junk that we eat has on us... I understand about all the preservatives and processed food but I need to research the glutin I keep hearing about and why is dairy bad for you... I feel so ignorant but I am excited to learn more and start to truly try to take better care of my family. How wonderful to feel better... I will email you sometime and give you my symptoms. lol I don't know how I can do this on such a tight budget but I am going to try to start doing better.
THANK YOU MY FRIEND
Ok, I just read all of your responses.... I am going to read about GLUTIN.... although I have heard of it I truly have no idea what it is or why it is so bad for you.... I feel so ignorant but am excited to learn...
ReplyDeleteThank you friend
Thanks so much for posting about all of this. I am going to email you with more questions.
ReplyDeleteKim,
ReplyDeleteYou are so informative about this! I will have to pass this onto my friend whose husband can't eat any gluten. I know I have fallen into the trap of cooking Bradley "kid" dinners, but most often it is just a serving of veggies or fruit without the seasonings that we use. I try not to give him something entirely different unless we are running late for dinner ourselves.
You are such an amazing mom, and you are doing so much for your children's health. XO, Clare
Kim – I enjoyed reading this post. Since I have diabetes, we try to eat really healthy and I read every label too! We do, however, break all food rules while on vacation and for birthday parties! I will definitely look for the Nana’s Cookies that you linked. Also, we don’t make separate food for our kids either. We make one meal and everyone happily eats it! We have yet to find anything our kids won’t eat. In fact, Carson usually says “Good dinner, Daddy!”
ReplyDeleteThank you for the encouragement that anyone can learn to eat this way!! I am in college and eat exactly the way you described how you ate then. I think I would benefit a lot from eating this way!!
ReplyDeleteKim,
ReplyDeleteWe have very similar shopping lists and I'd be lost without Whole Foods. In the early days of dealing with allergy issues, chronic ear infections and celiac disease, we had to travel about an hour to shop, but WF has made life so much easier. Yes, it is expensive, keeping us all healthy is a top priority so we forego other things to live this way.
This summer, I've decided to fill the frig with healthy snacks ready to go. I saw the idea of giving each child a muffin tin and leaving it in the frig with cut up fruits, veggies, dips, hard boiled eggs, etc. so that they can have something easy and ready all the time. I can also keep better track of who is eating what (some tend to eat too little and others don't make good choices, etc.). If left to their own devices, they'd just reach for chips (me,too acutally) because it is so easy. It still can be hard for me to eat out, but I'm noticing that some restaurants are offering gluten free items now and that is a nice change.
Keep up the great work...."you are what you eat!"
We are not gluten free, but we eat lost of fruits and veggies...whole grains, lean proteins...organic as much as possible. We avoid MSG, high fructose corn syrup and white things...sugar, flour, etc. I watch it closely for my kids, but I do allow occasional ice cream and other treats in moderation.
ReplyDeleteI think food(diet) plays a huge part in our(people in general) health problems!
I can't wait to take this info to the health food store. We have tried various medications, singular, zyrtec, nasonex, flonase, to name just a few. DIdi you ever try these with your boys. Can't wait for the next post.
ReplyDeleteHugs,
Chesnye
I love whole foods and Fresh Market. I don't even shop in a regular grocery store anymore. Whole Foods has the best stuff!!!
ReplyDeleteI am allergic to dogs too so we bought a Bichonpoo. I have no trouble with our little Lucy. She even sleeps with us.
I love reading your blog. Great information in your post!
Monkeys Mom,
ReplyDeleteMy girls eat -- and love -- Sunflower Butter and Soy butter. The soy wouldn't work in Kim's case but after a peanut allergy scare I eliminated all peanuts until age 5.
You can get both at Whole Food's and even our local Jewel now carries them in their "health food" section.
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ReplyDeleteMignon,
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately, we never saw a doctor there that recognized this as our problem. It wasn't until we moved here that we found the answers. In some ways, I often wonder if that is why we moved here.
Kim
That is so very interesting. You are such a wonderful mother to have researched all of this and changed your family's life!
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ReplyDeleteKim, I have spent the last twp days researching. Thank you so much for the fantastic links and info. I am alittle overwhelmed but ready to make a change. I found a great gluten free shopping list on whole foods website. There are a number of books and cookbooks , are there any you would recommend as must haves? I know this is going to be a shock to the budget but I think it will be worth it. PS Happy Birthday WILL!!!
ReplyDeleteI have not read your blog in quite a while- am just now catching up on all of your posts. Thanks so much for all of this fantastic information!! I have several friends who found out in the last few years that they are celiac. And while I don't believe I fall into that category, I am really refreshed to read of the benefits of limiting gluten from a diet and adding supliments. Going to the health food store is now on my to-do list this week to seek out some of the items you listed. Oh and I agree- when you have a change (you know- with 3 kids and an impending move and all!) I would love some of your favorite recipes!!
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