Judgement

Saturday, May 24, 2008
I apologize that my last post included both my Thankful Thursday list and a prayer request for the Chapman family together.  I had already written and posted my list when I heard the sudden and devastating news.  I was having problems posting to blogger and figured it would be better to add it and ask for prayers than to do not anything at all.  It is really easy to judge when you don't know the whole story.  But honestly, I was trying to be kind.  

41 comments:

  1. Kim,

    It was very obvious that your intentions were pure and that you were doing something kind by adding what you did just moments after hearing of the tragedy that has saddened all of us. I really hope that someone didn't leave you a rude comment- in no way would you ever deserve that.

    ((Hugs))
    Shana

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  2. It was obvious that you were trying to be kind. If someone doubts your intentions, they obviously didn't read your post. You even mentioned not being sure about leaving the thankful post. It was the right thing to do! I think it is important to remember what we have to be thankful for, especially in times of sadness.
    Jennifer

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  3. oh Kim we all know your lovely heart! You should not have to post to say such a thing. You are very thoughtful of others. One of your attributes I so admire,
    have a lovely weekend.
    Love
    Connie

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  4. My heart aches for the Chapmans. Thanks for posting their picture and website. We all need to be in prayer for this incredible family. Thanks for posting the gorgeous pics of my funny foursome - they'll get such a kick out of it! You are an awesome photographer and an even better friend!
    Love Ya - Mar

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  5. How could anyone find fault with your post? You did a Thankful Thursday post then added about the Chapman's after you found out about their tragedy. Where is the problem???
    I'm really sorry that you have to justify something like this. Your post was very heartfelt and appreciated!

    ~Lynn

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  6. How could anyone find fault with your post? You did a Thankful Thursday post then added about the Chapman's after you found out about their tragedy. Where is the problem???
    I'm really sorry that you have to justify something like this. Your post was very heartfelt and appreciated!

    ~Lynn

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  7. Oh no... what happened? ((HUGS)) Why would people judge?

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  8. You could never be accused of being anything other than loving, kind and thoughtful. If someone took issue with your post, it's their problem, not yours. Some people need to get a hobby! (other than making hurtful posts on people's blogs. Jeesh!)

    Snick :)

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  9. I saw your original post and did not see ANYTHING wrong about it at all. I hate what happened to the Chapman family, I pray that the Lord will be with them during this hard time.

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  10. Did someone actually criticize you for doing that? You were just being thoughtful as usual!!!! Have a lovely long weekend!
    -Jennifer

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  11. Oh sweet friend, your precious heart was very evident...your concern and care for the Chapmans was clear to see! You are truly a precious person...one who is so sweet to always think of others. I am sorry if someone found an issue with your last post. I thought it was a very touching post about the amazing Chapman family!

    Hope you are having a wonderful Memorial Day trip and visit with dear friends!!!

    Hugs to you!!!
    Denise

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  12. I thought if was very thoughtful and kind of you to add what you did about the Chapman's. I'm glad you did because I wouldnt have known about the sad tragedy. They are such an awesome christian family and my heart just aches for their loss. Shame on whoever was judging you.

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  13. Kim,

    I hope someone didn't criticize your post. I thought it was kind and thoughtful and absolutely nothing else.

    Kristi

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  14. Why oh why do people have to be mean! Anyone who has read your blog at least ONCE should know that you do not have any intention of hurting anyone. I heard the news and cried. I would have posted the same way you did. Asking for prayers for someone who had just lost a child was the right thing to do no matter where you did it. HOW can people not see that? Sending hugs your way and prayers too. You keep right on doing what you think is right because from what I have seen you are doing it well!
    Kim and Katiebug

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  15. Oh my goodness, I think you are the sweetest lady.

    enjoy your weekend, my friend, south of the border!

    Lea

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  16. You are lovely, kind, and thoughtful. I can't imagine why you felt you had to clarify... your heartfelt intentions are perfectly, wonderfully clear!

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  17. Kim,

    It IS obvious to everyone who has the pleasure of reading your blog on a regular basis what a kind heart you have. I actually take exception to a person who would use such a tragedy as what occurred to the Chapman family (and oh...how my heart still aches for them) to be mean to another person. Everything I have read about the Chapman family leads me to beleive that they would also find this very distatesteful. Your heart and your intentions are pure and good. If indeed someone left you a rude comment, you certainly did not deserve that.

    Kate

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  18. I don't post much here Kim, but wanted to let you know when I lurked (like everyday), I saw the first post, and then saw where you added about the tradedy. Never had one thought of anything different, or saw anything wrong. Very shocked that you had to do another post to justify your Thankful post. I'm sorry you have such mean people, that have to judge you in some way. Your loved by the adoption community, and have a very loving heart for your family, and your friends. You never deserve anything mean posted to your blog. I'm sorry if a post hurt you in any way.

    ((((HUGS)))
    Leslie

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  19. Oh Kim - I don't get that at all. It was obvious you had already posted earlier before you knew about the tragedy and then rather than ignore the devastation, you kindly asked for prayers.

    We are all devastated by the loss of Maria (truly like it was a family member of our own). It could have been any one of us and I would hope that we would rally together, not choose to pick apart.

    Enjoy your friends! Hoping you are having a great weekend.

    Love,
    Heather

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  20. WOW, It NEVER would have entered my mind that you were doing anything other than getting the word out that we need to pray for this family.
    I am so sorry that someone was ugly to you.... I am guessing that is what this is all about.
    Unfortunately, that is quickly becoming a part of blogging - people can hide behind an anonymous comment intended to hurt others.
    That is sad! Thankfully, the good far out weighs the bad!
    I am sorry you were teated badly.

    christi
    christicave@comcast.net

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  21. Hi, I link to your post from Denise's blog. I didn't even see the Thankful post that someone criticized? What!? I don't understand why people do that. How could they judge you like that? I just don't understand. I think the Chapman's would think a thankful thursday post is awesome anyway. They would not want people to delete a Thankful Thursday post; they just would not I don't think. Their whole life is about their God and their family. And that is what the Thankful Thursday posts are about! We received our PA for our little girl on Friday. Although I am still in a very sad mood about the Chapmans, her brother and Maria Sue, I still posted how thankful we were on our website. I think the Chapmans would be thankful for your post and for our PA too. They are passionate about China adoption and orphan ministry.

    I just wanted to let you know that you should not feel bad whatever was said. I love your blog. It is always real, encouraging and uplifting. Blessings, Leslie

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  22. Oh, Kim, I ditto what every person has said...you did not have to justify what you did. Remember, that these kind of things are why we both consider going private, but as we have talked about, the good outweighs the bad. As you have graciously done in the past, I know you have forgiven this individual and moved on.

    I hope that you are having a wonderful visit with Stacy and family...looking forward to Friday!

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  23. Kim,

    I knew your intentions were only out of the kindness of your heart. You are so sweet and so kind and I thought nothing else of it. It always amazes me how people can come up with something rude to say when someone is trying to be a good person or show concern for others. The only thing that others should be concerned about is lifting the Chapman's up in prayer.

    Don't feel bad, you are a great person with such a sweet heart.

    Taryn

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  24. Kim,

    I knew your intentions were only out of the kindness of your heart. You are so sweet and so kind and I thought nothing else of it. It always amazes me how people can come up with something rude to say when someone is trying to be a good person or show concern for others. The only thing that others should be concerned about is lifting the Chapman's up in prayer.

    Don't feel bad, you are a great person with such a sweet heart.

    Taryn

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  25. Kim,

    I never doubted that your intentions were sweet & pure. I am sorry that someone may have doubted your loving heart..I appreciated coming to 3 Peanuts & seeing your request for prayers!!

    HUGS,
    Sara

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  26. Dearest Kim,
    You are such a kind person! I am so glad that you included the Chapman's in your blog post. It was the right thing to do! You shouldn't have to justify that. Enjoy your weekend! XO, Clare

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  27. I'm sorry about whatever occurred here...I know this news has been devastating to us all and I don't see how posting the 2 things together would be anything but what it was...a prayer requests for a hurting family and a thankful list of how good our God is...even in difficult times, we are called to be thankful and see the hand of God through it all...To me that is refreshing!

    We are all grieving with the Chapmans during this time and sometimes there can be senstivities, which is understandable. I think you have been very gracious and kind and everything I have read from you(which I am a new reader) has been very sweet and gracious.

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  28. I would never judge you my friend because I know that your heart is nothing but kind, I have seen it over and over again. I hope you all are having a wonderful weekend.

    Much Love,
    Kimberley

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  29. i think that anyone who has any kind intentions in their heart would know that yours was nothing but a kind, thoughtful and respectful aknowledgement of a horrible trajedy that befell on a wonderful family. so sorry you had to deal with an unkind comment. i think there is alot of that going around! I am able to read the blog again... maybe just my computer!

    take care,
    stacie

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  30. I saw this post and my heart dropped...I sure hope you didn't get mean comments! Everyone else said it eloquently...You are nothing but kind and thoughtful and you deserve only the same in return.

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  31. I read your blog often but never comment. I hope that someone didn't leave a nasty comment. It was so obvious in your post that your heart was full of sorrow for the Chapman's. We are all saddened by the news. I am truly sorry if someone hurt your feelings. People can be so rude.

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  32. I never thought twice about your intentions either. Your heart was hurting and this is a place you come to for kindness and friendship. Whoever takes issue with your intentions needs to take it up with Harry.:) I hope that made you smile!

    God Bless you, Kim!

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  33. Kim,

    Im not sure what has been going on over the last month or so with you having to justify yourself and apologyze for things that do not need to be apologyzed for, but it seems like it has been a lot recently. Everyone and anyone who reads your blog knows you are an amazingly sensative, loving and thoughtful person. Anyone who would doubt that is crazy and obviously does not know you. It is easy to say ignore those comments but when i get them on my blog they always really bother me and clearly they bother you as well. Anyway Kim, dont let this bug you or get you down. Ignorant people just are ignorant and there is nothing you can do, say or post to fix that. You know we all love you and know what a wonderful person you are.

    HUGS!!!

    Christy :)

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  34. You are one of the most compassionate people I've met Kim...it's obvious in real life and to the people who read your blog.
    Hugs,
    Laura

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  35. Kim,

    I am grateful for you - you inspire me to be a better version of myself. I love my visits here - for I find a woman who is strong, and who eloquently touches her world with a great deal of wisdom and love. I understand that this blog is but a mere glimpse you and your life, but your thoughtful writing always makes me feel like I am in the company of a dear friend. One of my favorite things is to spend time in the presence of people who are authentically happy and send great energy into the universe ... and that is definitely what I find here. How blessed I am to have found your beautiful blog!

    Warmly,
    Michelle

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  36. Kim,

    I agree with your comments, it's too bad you feel you have to justify your post. Your empathy for others is obvious throughout your blog and our hearts truly go out to the Chapman family. Thanks for sharing, your blog is always so pleasent.

    Love,
    Dianne

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  37. You have a beautiful heart....you shouldn't have to explain yourself. I love reading what is in your heart...that is why I come here! Well.....and to see your beautiful children!

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  38. Oh dear....I hope you did not get a rude comment....I thought your post was lovely...and adding what you felt you wanted to on your blog I might add, was fine. ;)

    Hope you had a great holiday weekend.

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  39. How terrible that someone would say anything- this is such a tragedy and you would never do anything to be rude or disrespectful. How unkind - I am sure that your heart was motivated by love and compassion for a grieving family.
    Ladybug hugs,
    ;D

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  40. Kim, Why would anyone think badly of you?? That is so much on everyones mind, It is so sad!! No one should at all say anything negative!! It is obvious that you care!

    Debbie

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  41. Just saying "ditto" to all of the above comments! I too read the original post and didn't think a thing of it! I hope someone didn't leave a nasty comment....'cause it would have been way out of line.

    Blessings and Hugs to you!
    Jenn

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Thank you for your kindness.